Giving and receiving feedback is an interaction we all tend to dodge in one way or another.
It’s not our fault, really – we’re hardwired to feel threatened when receiving feedback, and knowing that makes it hard to give.
Our brain is constantly scanning our surroundings to determine whether we’re safe. When it senses danger, our fight-or-flight response kicks in, and our mind goes into defense mode. From a neurological perspective, the words “Let me give you some feedback” hit the same pain circuits as if we were physically hit.
Obviously, this doesn’t help create a positive space for discussion.