I’ve always said, “I don’t have to like you to work with you.” Over the years that evolved into, “I don’t have to like you to manage you.”
It’s not that I am antisocial. I’m just stating facts from experience.
Of course, it’s more pleasant and easier to manage people you like.
But some experts say that having a team in which everyone gets along extremely well also weakens it.
Reason: We gravitate toward people who are like us and have similar values. So there’s no one to challenge our thinking.
But not liking someone can lead to conflicts that often result in new insights and resolutions.
So what happens if you really dislike someone you manage, but they’re really good at their job?
Well, you could get another job, but a better option: Accept the fact you don’t have to like everyone you manage.
All it requires is that you respect them or something about them. Acknowledging that they’re good at their job is a sign of respect.
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